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Choose Your Reality – Good or Not Good – Both are Right

It’s true of life. We can focus on the ‘good’ or the ‘not so good.’ Both realities are correct. They are both real. You can “see” both if your mindset is in either frame. So which one will you choose? You’d be a fool to not go for the better one… that “Habit of Happiness.”

Which approach to life will drive you? There is a field of organisational psychology called Appreciative Inquiry, and it is fascinatingly similar for organisations as the ‘Habit of Happiness’ is for marriages.

If you’re married have you ever tried this technique? Be positive and see positive. Be negative and see negative. Everything you see in your spouse or partner is the way you see it.

Focus on the positive, asking positive questions, making positive remarks, and always seeing the positive means you will begin to see even more positivity, in your relationships and in your world generally. The more thankful you are, for instance, the more things you see around you that make you feel thankful. It’s a self-fulfilling prophesy.

The amazing thing is that this phenomena is scientifically proven showing the “placebo effect” is alive and well in the world of perception and reality. This is a relatively mature organisational science that has as much application in personal life as it does for groups, teams and entire organisations.

I have only just started learning about Appreciative Enquiry, so I expect to be writing more about this wonderful reality of thinking.

Think about it for a moment. Why would you want to be negative and focus on the ‘not so good’ when you can choose to see the ‘good’ in order to see it even more and be even happier! It’s even contagious.

Whatever your approach and attitude to life, know that what you choose to see is real for you.

© Steve J. Wickham, 2008. All rights reserved Worldwide.

Steve Wickham is a safety and health professional (BSc) and a qualified Christian minister (GradDipDiv). He is also has training and leadership Diplomas. His passion in vocation is facilitation and coaching; encouraging people to soar to a higher value of their potential. Steve’s interest in psychology is matched by years of experience in the psychology of safety in workplaces. Steve’s key passion is work / life balance and re-creating value for living, and an exploration of the person within us. An advocate for a fair and just life, Steve implements wisdom strategies to his life through a passion for Proverbial wisdom. His highest goal is doing God’s will, in enhancing his life, and the lives of others.